Monday, March 19, 2012
The Back Handed Compliment
The following is a public conversation relating to a repin of the above project on Pinterest.
Moose and Zee Centerpiece....remaking this....but better...we'll see...
Repinned from Plucking Daisies Designs by Amy Bowerman
I see that you are new to Pinterest...generally we do not insult another artists work here. I pin my work to inspire others...not to be ridiculed.
I'm sorry Amy, I'm kind of a smart ass, I didn't mean to insult you at all. I thought it was cute...which I why I stole YOUR idea.
I was insinuating that if it was re-done, after the first time, it would be even better. Regardless of who redid it. It's adorable!
Well Amy I think everyones opinion is there opinion and if you knew Jodie you would realize she wouldn't insult or ridicule you !!! Relax!!!
Good...grief. Where to begin...
Rudeness comes in many forms. Sometimes rudeness is blatant and loud, like a nasty comment with no artifice of civility or decorum. Then there is the second and in Ms. Madge(rs) humble opinion, more insidious kind of passive-aggressive rudeness often referred to as 'the back handed compliment.'
This second variety almost always stems from a place of insecurity. Why else would one both compliment and insult simultaneously? Oh look, someone had a great idea first, why how dare they have that great idea I would obviously have had given time. I am going to tell them it is a great idea, but make it clear that my version of that great idea would have been vastly superior.
Oh my little green eyed monster, you are a nasty beast indeed.
Jealousy is a valid human emotion and Ms. Madge(rs) has found herself overcome by it on numerous occasions. She has, however, learned to keep her dirty little thoughts to herself. You may have done it better had you the foresight to have the idea first although looking at the two finished designs (here is a link to Jodie's version) I am not convinced your argument holds water. The plain truth is, you did not have the idea first, therefore the point, my dear, is moot. Perhaps a reflection on your Pinterest 'faith' board will remind you to follow the golden rule and do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Excusing rude behavior by denying it or rationalizing it is not a valid excuse. You can't rewrite reality.
Then to add insult to virtual injury, you recreated the project changing it only slightly and posted it without credit to the originator.
On rare occasion Ms. Madge(rs) is speechless. This is one of them.
But I will leave you with this thought, "My Religion is Kindness." The 14th Dalai Lama
(NOTE: the images in the projects are under the copyright of Nickelodeon. Be very careful using copyright protected images in your designs and always clearly specify FOR PERSONAL USE. You can not use copyright protected images and resell them, even if you've redrawn them. Just ask anyone who has been sued by Disney.)